Are you green-eyed with jealousy? Are you tormented when your partner looks at someone else? Or does your imagination torture you with romantic scenarios that don't include you?

Jealousy is a real-life issue that plagues many relationships.

We tend to think of jealousy as a single emotion, but actually its a whole bundle of feelings that get lumped together. Jealousy can show up as anger, fear, hurt, betrayal, anxiety, agitation, sadness, paranoia, depression, loneliness, envy, possessiveness, feelings of inadequatecy, and exclusion... Sound familiar?

It will help if you can dig a bit deeper, cut through the "jealousy red mist" and actually figure out what it is that you are feeling...

Look, usually jealousy is about fear--fear of the unknown and of change, fear of losing power or control in a relationship, fear of hurt and loss, and fear of betrayal and abandonment.

Jealousy is actually a reflection of your own insecurity; does she still love me, am I a good enough lover, am I still attractive/young/rich/successful enough for him/her? I've seen it tons and tons of times.

A guy will come to see me, absolutely consumed with fear, fury and bewilderment. They've become so eaten up with their fantasies and fears, that they've lost all idea of reality, and more often than not, of dignity!

Click here for a typical story of jealousy: