And dating isn't as much fun as it should be.

You've tried all kinds of ways to meet partners; bars and clubs, dating agencies and dating through personal ads, websites, blind-dates and many a painful dinner party with well meaning friends. All you have to show for it is a string of first dates and a few short lived flings...

Meeting people isn't hard. Meeting the right person (and keeping them) is.

Well, I hate to tell you, but 90% of the time, when a person isn't successful at dating, it's usually their own fault. And the root cause is often insecurity, lack of focus and lack of self-esteem.

Here are some tough questions to ask of yourself before you seriously begin dating:

• Would I rather be by myself than in a relationship that doesn't make me happy?
• Am I prepared to make the commitments of time and energy required?
• Am I looking for a partner to "add-value" to my life, or just for fun?
• Do I have a healthy enough respect for myself to even be dating?
• Do I know my own value? (I'll give you a clue: if the answer isn't "high" you've got some serious work to do!)
  • Am I in good shape physically?
  • Do I take care of myself?
  • Am I confident enough not to "compete?"
  • Is the rest of my life in good order?

I suspect that there will be more than a few "no's" sprinkled among the "yes'."

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