The first approach to a prospective date is always daunting. Don't just offer an open-ended invitation: want to go out with me sometime? That makes it really easy for someone to fudge the answer. "Sure I'll give you a buzz sometime." Now you've lost the initiative completely.

Neither do you want to back them up against a wall by demanding an answer on the spot. You may think that's a good strategy but it's not. It sets you up for an evening with someone who doesn't want to be there, who's kicking themselves for not having figured out a way to say "no" nicely, and who might have actually been quite interested in dating you if only you'd taken your time...

Be forthright, warm, smiling and specific.

"I've got a couple of tickets to King Kong" for this Friday, and I'd really like it if you could join me..."

"A friend of mine recommended that new jazz bar on Division, and I'm meeting a couple of friends there Friday."

Or as I said to my wife-to-be when I first met her: "I'd really like to take you to dinner, to any restaurant you like, anywhere in the world!"

Not everyone's style perhaps, but it worked for me!

Look, no matter if you're quaking inside, you want to project warmth, confidence (not cockiness--that is entirely different!) and show her that whatever the outcome you won't take it personally...

Don't look too intense, cover your nervousness with a big smile, and above all don't look thirsty!

Remember self-esteem and confidence are the most magnetic attributes anyone possesses. Use them to bring the game to you, not to have to chase it.

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