1. Stop competing with each other! Good relationships are
all about being on the same side. What's the purpose in
scoring all those points? Sure you may cross the finish line first
today, and maybe tomorrow as well. But you'll be all alone when
you do, and if you carry on this way, eventually you may not have
anyone left in your life to compete with! So stop competing; stop
player-hating; start concentrating on crossing that finish line
as part of a winning team.
2. Listen, communicate and hear! One of my favorite
parts of my great relationship period, is to sit and chat with my
wife. We talk about big stuff, and small stuff; share plans and
pains, and each of us engages with what the other is saying. We
never use silence as a weapon, and we never go to bed mad. Master
the simple art of real conversation, and your relationship is halfway
home!
3. Understand a relationship is not about "ownership." This is probably the most common personal problem I come across.
Possessiveness and jealousy are two of the most destructive of all
human forces. Very few relationships will survive the poison of
this twin-horned devil. Let it go!
