Now, none of the signs below necessarily mean that a break-up is imminent or inevitable, but they are each warning signs that all is not well. Either way you need to pay close attention to the symptoms:

• She doesn't listen anymore, is cool and somewhat distracted
• She spends more and more time out of the house
• She doesn't laugh at your jokes
• She seems to be avoiding you
• Conversations are getting harder and the pauses longer
• She turns her back on you in bed, and is always feeling under the weather
• You bicker more, especially in front of friends and family
• She criticizes things about you that she used to ignore, or even like
• Everything you say seems to be irritating to her

There are telltale signs that she is having an affair: you catch her telling lies; she stays out very late, or isn't in the house in the daytime when you call; you find scraps of paper, odd receipts or new clothes tags lying around; she loses weight, has a new hair-do or changes her makeup...

It may be that she is stressed, worried, or perhaps even ill. Or it could be that she's just fed up! Look out.

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